Let me tell you something reality TV taught me—loud, clear, and on national television: control is a very cute illusion.

I’ve walked into shows like Big Brother thinking I had a plan, a strategy, a “mastermind moment“. I mean… I’ve done this before. I know how to play. I know how to read people. I know how to win.

And then… plot twist.

On BB27, I got hit with a twist I never could’ve predicted. Not in a million years. Not in my color-coded strategy notebook. Not in my “I’ve got this handled” mindset. And in that moment, it didn’t matter how prepared I was—because I wasn’t in control. My “mastermind moment” was taken over by an actual “master mind …. twist?”!

And here’s the part nobody really talks about:
That doesn’t mean you did anything wrong.

Sometimes life (and reality TV producers 😏) just… changes the rules.

You can have the best plan, the best intentions, the best experience—and still get thrown into a situation that feels unexpected, unfair, or just plain ugh. And in those moments, you have two choices: fight something you can’t change… or take a breath and move forward anyway.

I had to remind myself: I signed up for this. I don’t make all the rules. I can only control how I respond.

And honestly? That’s life.

We think we’re in charge—we plan, we prepare, we manifest—but the truth is, there are always forces bigger than us at play. Timing, opportunity, other people’s choices… sometimes things are already in motion, and no amount of overthinking is going to stop it.

My husband Brendon is a physicist and has taught me a few things… Physics doesn’t lie, okay? Once it’s in motion, it’s in motion 😂

So what do you do when things don’t go your way?

You pause. You breathe. You let go of what you thought was supposed to happen.

Because here’s the real lesson:
Just because it didn’t happen the way you planned doesn’t mean it wasn’t meant to happen at all.

In the game, I was out. That chapter closed whether I liked it or not.

But in life? I don’t get evicted, eliminated. I get to keep going. I get to take that experience, that frustration, that “wait… WHAT just happened?” moment—and turn it into wisdom.

We don’t have a rewind button. No time machine. No redo.

But we do get perspective. Growth. Strength.

So if you’re in a moment right now where things feel out of your control—good. That means you’re living. That means something is unfolding.

And maybe, just maybe… it’s unfolding exactly the way it’s supposed to. Some days, I have no idea why something happened, what it meant, or what would’ve happened if it didn’t. And honestly? I’ve made peace with that. I trust the process, I keep moving forward… and if I ever crack the code, don’t worry—I’ll spill everything.